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Dear People,

One of the things that happen the most when you live a vibrant and happy life is that you are starting to notice that you will be called to more and more situations and that most of them might become 'more difficult' with time. Listening to your intuition will become easier, but the situations it wants to resolve will have greater stakes, but also greater rewards. Change is one of the hardest things for all humans, as we tend to like things to stay predictable.

Even so, here are some interesting examples in my business life that you can see have increased stakes.

Renting my first space
When I just started out, I mostly worked at people's homes and was still wondering how I was going to start up my business. I naturally spoke to other friends about starting my business, especially one that had rented a space for years already. I also attended a networking meeting where I met his landlord. I actually wrote an e-mail to him to see if anything was available.

I didn't hear back, so that was a bit of a bummer. But a few weeks later my intuition told me that I should send an e-mail again. I did and this time two spaces where available so I even had the choice to see what would work for me. The stakes weren't that high, because I could rent in a building that was going to be torn down so I could do month-by-month rent which is unusual for businesses. The rent also wasn't that high because of that. I told myself I'd try for 3 months, instead of going on holiday (around the same amount of money as 3 months rent) and if it didn't work out, I'd quit. So that was perfect for starting up.

Moving to my second space
Of course the building was eventually torn down, so just before we were all told we had to vacate. Most of us wanted to stay together and our landlord had acquired another building, but that one was significantly smaller. So, it was all fate if you could fit or not. Our landlord first made spaces available to larger companies and those that rented from him longer.

A lot of people told me to find another space, especially when the date to move out was approaching. My intuition however told me that I would find space in the new building. The stakes weren't that high, because I told myself that worst case scenario I'd work from home to make it work. I would then go find another space to rent for my business. However, imagine my delight when a space became available for me just a week before we were supposed to move out.

TV program
Of course being on TV would be great for me, but it was also quite a hefty business expense. I watched segments of the show, I thought about possibilities and I wondered what it would do for my business. It was quite interesting that my intuition told me to go for it. It was contrary to a lot of advice I was getting and the stakes were definitely higher, as it was a lot of money.

I did decide to listen and I am happy to report I did recoup that money and then some. I really do believe it was important for my business.

I my personal life I also notice that stakes have gone up and I'm able to make decisions that carry more risk if they 'go wrong' then I would have done a few years ago. However, the rewards also have been a lot bigger, which is wonderful. I'm eager to find out what joys are awaiting me for the future.

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Dear People,

One of the questions I often get asked around this time of year is why I take the whole or usually at least 4 weeks off in December. I've been working in my own business for 10 years now and I think I've taken at least 5 Decembers off so far. The answer is a bit long, so it's nice to write it all down for once.

Family Time
It's normal for a lot of people to have family time in December, with Christmas and New Years around the corner. I can't prepare sessions, have sessions, be available for aftercare, take care of the administration and be able to enjoy time with family. I often work longer hours then just 40 a week, so to create some lovely Christmas dinners and to be present with them, I can't have active sessions. So even if I didn't close down the practice for the whole of December, I wouldn't work Christmas week in any case, since I'm responsible for the after care. Most of the after care is done around 2 days after sessions, when energy can still fluctuate.

Vacation
Since I don't have kids that go to school, often we take the opportunity to leave for holidays abroad during times when it's off season and cheaper. I often don't close the practice down during the summer holidays, so we have gone on vacation around December. I love Christmas markets, but also winter sun. So we've been on many December holidays, mostly around the Canary Island (25 Celsius is wonderful!) and the beginning of December is often very reasonably priced.

Clean up time
When I close down the practice for the year for active sessions, I can then make time to do some 'ending things'. I always clean out the practice completely. I now make time to shop for necessary items and install them in the practice (or at home!). So December often sees me buying new phones or computer stuff, as well as chairs or other items. I throw out old paperwork and catch up on paperwork I didn't finish during busy weeks.

While other people love spring cleaning, I'm a December cleaning kind of person. I love starting the year clean and while I don't hold the superstition that unfinished business won't ever be finished, it's wonderful to finish up some loose ends and have some free time to do so.

New beginnings

December, as the end of the year, has a natural reflective energy for me. So I often start brainstorming on new ideas that I want to implement starting the new year. I have some talks with the paper to see how I want to advertise that year. I make a sort of 'year schedule' to see what workshops I want to host and what my goals are for the new year.

Usually this kind of information is very 'loose' as I might change things during the year, but it helps to see what matters to me.

So now you all know what I'm doing in my 'winter break' and why I don't have a summer one!

Have a question for me? Ask me in the practice or write me an e-mail, post it on the blog or Facebook Fan Page!

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I choose to connect to my body
I choose to connect to my conscious mind
I choose to connect to my subconscious mind
I choose to connect to my worries
I choose to connect to my shadow
I choose to connect to my higher mind
I choose to connect to my emotional channel
I choose to connect to my heart
I choose to connect to my fears
I choose to connect to my intuition
I choose to connect to the higher Power (God/Universe/etc.)
I am completely connected to all my channels
I am completely connected

I joyfully connect to other people
I joyfully connect to the environment
I joyfully connect to nature
I joyfully connect to music
I joyfully connect to animals
I joyfully connect to the world
I joyfully connect to the Universe

I keep all my connections healthy
I bless all my connections
I'm passionate about all my connections
I give positive energy to all my connections
I receive positive energy from all my connections
I give out wisdom to all my connections
I receive wisdom from all my connections
 
Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online

Dear People,

It's been a while since I wrote about the joys of Psychic Life. Not because I haven't had any joy, but mostly because I've been focusing on my other article series. So now I'm back to talk a little bit more about my life and what happens differently because I'm a Psychic Healer. Today I want to talk about Fantasizing and how I do it.

Positive Fantasizing
A lot of people do 'negative fantasizing', also called 'worrying'. When we go out and distract our mind with all kinds of negative stories that we create. Often, our worries never come true, yet we still engage in the same behavior.

Positive Fantasizing can be anything from daydreaming about the kind of life, love or job you want to be to brainstorming and making lists on what goals you want to achieve. For some of us, that can be an escape that comes to nothing, but if you work with energy, especially spiritually, you can create from your own desires.

Visualization
You can take your ideas and visualize them. Research has shown that athletes that visualize their exercises will create benefits for their 'real' play. The power of the mind is so interesting and I hope we will see more research in the coming years. So, as a Psychic, I often visualize what I want to create coming towards me or appearing in my life.

Sometimes I make a movie, where I see myself doing the things I want to do, hearing, feeling and smelling them. Sometimes I visualize an object that I want to have and how it feels to use that in my daily life.

Affirmations
Once I have something I really want to achieve or just a goal I want to work on and I find myself fantasizing about it a lot, I will often make an affirmation for myself to repeat and enjoy. Sometimes I spend some time using hand lettering to create a work of art with an affirmation.  Creative work helps me reaffirm easily and happily. I tend to sing them too sometimes.

Law of Attraction
I don't consciously work with the law of attraction much, although I know a lot of people who use it through affirmations and visualization, so I guess they might say I use it a lot. Most of my law of attraction work is unconsciously done. I hear myself say and talk about what I want and I trust it will appear.

This has gotten me loads of discounts and other beautiful situations in which things worked out just like I would have wanted it/for the best.

Listening
Last, but certainly  not least, is that I listen to what I can do to start creating my positive and better life. Sometimes I drawn towards new situations and people, sometimes I'm told to do some more work on areas of my life and sometimes I'm just told to relax and enjoy. 

So, today, set some time aside to think or feel what you really want to create in your life. Fantasize about your 'better life', about who would be in it, what would be happening in it etc.. Then go out and try one of the things I do to create it for yourself.

Want to share you own positive story or ask me questions about this? Post a comment on the blog or Facebook Fan Page, e-mail me or talk to me in the practice!

Dear People,

Recently I was asked how I deal with people who don't believe in the work I do. There are several types of 'unbelievers' and how they respond to me, so there are also different ways in how I respond to them. The short answer is: I don't have problems with people who find my work strange, weird or unusual. Read on to hear about the longer answer.

Open minded unbelievers
A lot of people in this group don't have much experience with spirituality or spiritual healers. They have no idea what to expect and often find the idea of Psychics strange or unsettling. It doesn't fit in their world view. They are used to things that they can measure or see and that the future is all open. The idea that it might not be, creates a feeling of unease.

Often I see this group of people when I have treated their partner, family, friend or neighbor. They see a lot of results; like more energy, less pain, stronger personality/more inner peace; and they want that for themselves too. So they are willing to try something new and they often tell me upfront that they never done anything like this and they aren't quite sure if they believe in it.

Some open minded unbelievers are desperate with chronic or severe health issues, who feel like they really do just need to try everything. Often I'm the last stop for them, as they tried many things, and they are finally opening up to things much more out of their comfort zone.

I tell all of them the same: you don't have to believe in it for it to work. I work with their slight discomfort when they notice I know things about them that they haven't told me. As soon as they see results, most of this group is happy to stay with: "I don't know why it works, but I'm happy it does". Sometimes they go on to work more with spiritual or personal development, because the work for I did for them allows them open up their worldview.

We then often discuss a lot of things that we know exists, but we are unable to measure or record. Like for example, what we are dreaming or something as powerful as love. We often also speak about how science is catching up and starting to measure things that spiritual teachers have talked about for ages. There have been studies that we carry memories in our DNA for example, which fits with the idea of many spiritual teachers that we need to release memories and behavior patterns from our ancestors. A lot more research is being done about how important gut health is, while a lot of healers focus on the intestinal tract/stomach area as well. Quantum Theory is also very interesting and I'm hopeful my work will be able to be measured in my lifetime. It's something that would make me exceedingly happy.

Rude or close minded unbelievers
Some people don't believe in what I do and then also find it their business to insult me, by claiming I'm a fake, a charlatan or whatever insult they prefer. They might also try to convince me that the work I do doesn't work, even though I have hundreds of satisfied clients. I know that's anecdotal evidence only, but it still exists.

I tend to stay polite and tell them that they are free to their beliefs, as am I. I rarely meet people who want to tell me what to believe and not believe in, but sometimes I do. It's quite interesting to me that often they are looking for a strong response from me, but then are very unhappy when they don't get it.

I feel everybody should be free to believe in what they want. I never discuss things with them, because I know discussing with people who only want to be rude or who aren't open to other people's viewpoints is useless.

Have a question for me? Ask me in the practice or write me an e-mail, post it on the blog or Facebook Fan Page!

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I choose to express myself
I choose to express myself joyfully
I choose to express myself completely

I choose to express my difficult emotions
I choose to express my anger
I choose to express my sadness
I choose to express my disappointment
I choose to express my frustration
I choose to express my jealousy
I choose to express my hurt
I choose to express my upset

I choose to express my emotions
I choose to express my upset
I choose to express my joy
I choose to express my love
I choose to express my happiness
I choose to express my interest

I joyfully express my creativity
I joyfully express my gifts
I joyfully express my talents

I create the space to express myself
I take the time to express myself
I enjoy expressing myself
I love expressing myself
 
Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online

Dear People,

It's June and the practice is now 10 years old. Last month I met up with somebody who told me that when I just started out I transformed her life by saying something to her. She couldn't even remember anymore what it was exactly, but she just wanted to let me know how much it meant to her. This sparked the discussion on how much I remember about past clients and sessions with somebody who watched this exchange.

Do I remember clients/sessions?
The short answer is sometimes. I'm not perfect and while I have a good memory it isn't really for faces or names. I've been working on that, but more for my social life than for remembering clients. Some people I've worked with longer so it's easier to remember them and some just made an impact into my memory due to their questions or situation.

The long answer is: I would like to remember clients, but not all the sessions.

I have trouble remembering clients when I meet them in a group (like the Reading/Healing Evenings or on a fair. I usually see so much people, that it can blur a bit together. I think some clients have heard me tell any group: "While I try to remember you and what the Readings where about, please be mindful that if you would ask me again in a week or 2, I probably won't remember. It's not that I don't care, it's that I give out and receive so much information it's hard to retain which information belongs to whom.

As for sessions, if I would stay connected to every session and reading I did, I'd probably have no peace. I'd wonder about that person who came to ask about their relationship (are they still married?), that decision (did they emigrate?) or that health problem (did they heal?). I try to let sessions go as soon we end sessions together. Sometimes I get closure - and sometimes I don't. I try not to wonder why people sometimes don't come back after cancelling a session or don't want to update me on their life. I know life can get busy and I'm only a small chapter or even a page in their book.

So, in a perfect life, I'd remember you, a short summary of what we did and we'd meet as old acquaintances when we see each other - eager to update each other and then let go again until the universe brings us together again. And you feel welcomed to send me an e-mail, Facebook message or text to let me know something I predicted came true and brought you joy. It brings me a lot of joy to read those, so I'm always happy to hear from clients.

To make that story happen more often, I keep a short summary from people who I've seen in the practice for paid sessions, but this is only something I've been doing systematically since the start of 2018. Before I had a card system, which meant I often didn't update it and didn't really clear it out based on dates. So I am expecting a lot more easier meetings in my future and I like that I have more options on after care. This system helps me to input important dates and sets reminders for when I promised to keep in touch with clients.

Have a question for me? Talk to me in the practice, post a message on the blog or send me an e-mail.

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I am able to be happy
I am able to be happy while I'm stressed
I am able to be happy during difficult times
I am always able to be happy

I am able to focus on my happiness
I am able to focus on my happiness around others
I am able to focus on my happiness while I'm stressed
I am able to focus on my happiness during my daily life
I am able to focus on my happiness during difficult times


I easily find happiness in small things
I easily find happiness in expressing myself
I easily find happiness in my social bonds
I easily find happiness within myself
I easily find happiness

I easily create happiness
I easily create happiness for myself
I easily create happiness for others
I easily create happiness for the world

I choose to have a happy mood
I choose to have a happy mind
I choose to have a happy body
I choose to have a happy soul
I choose to be a happy being

Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online

Dear People,

Today I'm writing a little bit about my cancellation policy. Sometimes we forget an appointment, sometimes life happens and we can't make it. That's understandable, but what's also understandable is that I invest time and energy into holding a spot for a client and doing the preparation work. I often thought on if I wanted to change, but I feel the current set up is fair for everybody involved.

Here is my reasoning:

When I started working I decided that I really would like to prepare my sessions in advance. Almost always the preparation is what the client wants to discuss in the first place - so it gives a lot of trust starting out this way. It fosters an environment of common ground and understanding. It also helps clients who have difficulty putting into words to what is bothering them.

I can't do the preparation work a long time in advance, due to the fact that the energy field fluctuates since life fluctuates. So I do most of this work somewhere within 24 hours before a session. Sometimes that's in the morning for an evening session, sometimes it's after dinner and very rarely it's the evening before. If I have a busy day ahead it just makes sense if I'm at the practice already to do it then, so in particular Friday's sessions are often done Thursday evening.

I have a maximum of the amount of sessions I can do a week - this is to keep myself sane and healthy and to be able to give my best to my clients. Rarely, I work outside my normal business hours, for example if I'm doing house visits, have to visit somebody at the hospital or if somebody has a strange work schedule. When I do, I keep into account that I will have to cut session time from my normal working hours. So when people cancel, that means I immediately have availability for somebody else. If you cancel in advance, no problem, I can contact people and make it work. If nobody can fit the slot, I can take my laptop and work on the administration, the promotion or any of the other things I need to do for my business.

When people cancel too late or not at all, I'm stuck with preparation work that I have to throw out, a slot that I couldn't fill and of course also time that is wasted. If I allow this to continue, that means paying clients are picking up the slack for non-paying clients, which I feel is very unfair.

I'm happy with how I do my work in the practice, so if people do not agree, I counsel them to not book sessions with me.

So the second question often is: How come you don’t know if people need to cancel/ won’t show as a Psychic?

First of all keeping an eye on everybody’s life would be dreadfully time and energy consuming. Secondly it’s rare for me to check into other peoples lives except for preparation for a session or during a session. I would have to check and recheck often, as for some people the reason they aren't able to show up happens on the day itself while others might forget to write down the appointment during their last session.

Also, if I do get the sense something is wrong, what should I do? Hound somebody to see if they will come until their appointment date and time? Not show up myself or book somebody else in that slot? None of these are good options so that also makes keeping an eye out for this situation even more a waste of time and effort.

Personally, I don’t like late cancellations or people completely forgetting their session. I understand why people feel that 'mistakes happen' and it how was 'just the first time'. I always try to foster understanding that while you might feel that you got 'nothing for your money', I have worked for your session.

Lately, I've been thinking on if I want to send people text messages or e-mails a day before a session, but automating this is not very easy for me. Doing it all manually means that each session needs an additional 5-10 minutes of my time. That's just not worth it for the few people a year who forget a session or cancel later then the 24 hour window.

Have a question for me or a good solution? Talk to me in the practice, post a message on the blog or send me an e-mail.

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I cleanse my heart 
I trust myself and others
I forgive myself and others
I connect with others in a healthy ways
I connect with myself in a healthy ways
I choose to be open-hearted

I accept other people's opinions
I accept other people's actions
I accept other people's values
I accept other people's beliefs
I choose to be open-minded

I easily to let go of my walls
I easily to let go of my judgements
I easily let go of the past
I easily to let go of my expectations
I am open to life

I am open to love
I am open to luck
I am open to abundance
I am open to joy
I am open to laughter/humor
I am open to naughtiness
I am open to inspiration
I am open to connection
I am open to intuition
I am open to guidance
I am open to all

Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online

Dear People,

Often we feel pressured to make choices and we can get tired of feeling like everything we do matters and we just don't know what to do. It can also feel like we 'have no choice' are 'forced to do this' which means we often don't enter the situation with grace and kindness, but instead of low energy, resentment and anger. It's hard to feel blessed with free will sometimes, so today I'm writing about the power of choice.

Power of choice: Owning your choices
Regardless of what our ego or our thoughts tell us, we always have a choice. Even if somebody is standing next to you with a gun, we still have a choice. Even if somebody overpowers us, we still have a choice. Some choices we make fully conscious and aware of the consequences, while others are subconscious and some are in between. By owning our choices, we keep positive energy flowing.

Example 1: Christmas Attendance
If you say you 'have to' attend Christmas with your parents and you just 'don't have a choice', you can almost feel the resentment building. You won't be happy sitting at the dinner table, you won't be happy seeing your parents, although in the end you might classify it as: "not too bad".

If you own your choice and you say: "I rather go to my parents with Christmas then have a fight with them/host my own Christmas/do my own thing/make a fuss", then you will know that you are the one who choose this. That also means, consciously if this changes the next year you might kick up a fuss, choose to host yourself or just take a vacation.

Example 2: Biking vs Car
Somebody asks you if you want to meet up by car or by bike. You know you  have a preference but you don't want to say car. You probably have some judgements on that (lazy, costly etc.) so you say bike. You end up blowing up your bike tire by hitting it on the shed door, so bike is now out.

You can say your subconscious sabotaged you, but your soul also gives you a lesson right at this moment to make choices that are right for you and own up to them.

Power of choice: Allowing for the answer
A lot of the time, people desperately want to right answer, the right choice and they want to make it right now. However, one of the beautiful things in the power of choice is allowing for the answer. Take your time to listen to all channels of wisdom (your body, your emotional responses, your mental thought processes, your intuition, soul guidance etc.) and if they don't match take some time to sort through the "Why".

Sometimes you are asking the wrong question, and while you want to choose between A & B, C is the answer. Sometimes old pain or bad thought patterns can keep you from moving forward towards a choice that's right for you.

Allow for an answer and it will come to you, even when you are conflicted or see no way out. I prefer to meditate on the question and to listen. Sometimes when I'm told to wait and not rush off to 'fix things' that don't need to be fixed, it's still hard on me. However, when I listen the right answer will present itself.

Power of choice: Choosing again
We always try to make a choice in good faith, because nobody would willingly and consciously choose to be in a bad relationship, marry the wrong person, accept the wrong job etc. However, sometimes our choices have consequences we don't like or we have changed and no longer want what we once chose.

In any situation, there is always the ability to choose again. To change course. To correct based on what new information you received or what you experienced. That doesn't mean your initial choice was wrong, just that you need that part of the path before you could continue on.

Power of choice: Reframing your situation
A lot of times we choose to see a situation was annoying, desperate, horrible or painful. It's a choice that we sometimes make consciously and sometimes subconsciously. It's important to understand that we can make our life easier when we choose another option.

Nobody likes to be late at work, but we can frame it as a horrible thing or we can say: 'shit happens'. We can ask ourselves: "What is the lesson in this?", or we can run around in busyness and start trying to solve things asap. When you change how you look at things, you will notice immediate results in energy levels and mood. That doesn't mean it's easy - but it's very worthwhile. I hope to achieve the day where I can honestly say that only good things happen to me - just some good things I like more then others.

Want to talk about your way of dealing with choices? Post a comment on the blog, reach me through Facebook,  e-mail me or talk to me in the practice.

I willingly respect my body
I willingly respect my feelings