Often we find ourselves torn between two different parts of ourselves. Maybe we feel like our heart is craving something else then our head is telling us, maybe it's the 'good girl' wanting to do one thing while the 'lazy bum' wants to do another. Often, we are split, which is causing great damage to our energy and well being.
Past splits, like decisions about staying or leaving a relationship, job or country, can still haunt us as well. You can notice this when you have regrets, resentment or pain that you know is rooted in a past decision.
Today I'm sharing an exercise designed to integrate both sides of yourself, by giving them what they need, so you can step into a new beginning. I've done this exercise with a group of people at the free healing evening in October and it was very well received. A lot of people noticed immediate feelings of peacefulness, but also recognized how stuck they have become into the conflict so the middle road was invisible to them.
Exercise Inner Conflict Integration
This exercise is designed to do with two people, however, if you want to do it on your own, you can stand in both roles for yourself. I highly recommend that you then choose a Deck, like my 100% Positivity Set, to receive the Gift necessary, instead of listening to your own intuition. It's very hard to heal your own conflict so getting some extra help is recommended.
Role A: Conflicted Person
Role B: Helping Hand
A identifies the conflict and discusses it with B (or if you are doing this on your own, you discuss this situation out loud).
First, A, energetically enters one side of the conflict by taking a step to the left, sharing the thoughts, feelings, or behavior that comes with this part. You can feel the influence this side has on your energy by the feelings in your physical body, energy body or shifts in your emotional and mental state. Discuss this out loud.
B, asks God, your higher Self, Angels or anyone else to come and help out, but you can also help A from a higher Self perspective, your own experiences or by drawing a Card. First absorb the energy for yourself before you bring it to A. Name what you are bringing and step into the conflicted side to bring this new energy, gift or advice into this side.
Stay together for a moment and let the energy flow until you feel that it is ready.
A steps over the "middle point", to the right, the other side of the conflict. B moves to the opposite position so you are facing each other again.
A shares the thoughts, feelings and behavior that belongs to this conflict side. Take the time again to really feel what this side of the conflict is doing to you, what it needs or what part of you is invested in it.
B, this time brings the gift to side 2, to bring peace and love there. Again, first name the gift, accept it for yourself before bringing it to A.
Just stand quietly together and let the energy flow until it feels ready.
A then steps back to the middle, the starting point of the exercise. B can stand by A or just behind A. A makes a conscious decision to take a step forward to end the conflict and integrate both gifts into a new beginning. When creating this new beginning, you can find insights, inspiration or changes in your behavior.
Want to work on your own inner conflict or share a story on how this exercise has helped you? Leave a message on the blog, the Facebook Fan Page or e-mail me.
Dear People,
Quite recently I've changed the way I've been doing healing work in my practice. I've heard a lot of questions about my old way and my new way. So what better time then to sit down and write a blog post about it. If you have any other questions, feel free to ask me in the practice, by e-mail or leave a message below this blog post or on Facebook.
Why did you change?
We all learn and grow during life. I have always told people I let God guide me to where I need to be and what I need to do. I can't tell people to move forward in their soul missions, if I do not do so myself. It's important for me to work authentically.
Does that mean that the old way was wrong?
Most definitely not. I have had beautiful miracles with my old way of working. I wouldn't have traded those for the world. I loved working with my gifts in that way, but I felt that I could do more if I switched to a new way.
What are the differences between the old and the new way?
The most obvious one is that in the old way people would lay down on the massage table while I treated them and in the new way I ask people to stand and move with me. I feel that physically moving helps the energy shift easier and more naturally.
In the old way I would remove the blockages in the energy field and ask people to repeat what I was saying. I would listen intuitively to what they would need to hear/need to say and often people would ask me if I was reading their minds, because they would feel heard. Repeating it before and after healing would give most people the feeling that things have shifted as they would notice changes in their tone of voice or body.
In the new way, I will ask people to stand in different positions and then ask them what they are experiencing. I engage their intuitive gifts which helps them to get really in touch with the energy and feel how things are shifting. By asking to move forward during healing, what we are doing integrates more and deeper. I can add in energy as needed as well as feel intuitively which positions are needed.
In the old way I would resolve most blockages in the energy field or in heart/head layers, meaning most inner conflicts would resolve, energy would be boosted and behavior would change. Sometimes we'd work on other layers or energy would work there on it's own. However, for difficult problems or chronic problems, I usually had to work at least 5-7 sessions and some problems would be very hard to shift.
In the new way, we work directly on the root, even if that is based on earlier experiences, family patterns, past lives or archetype imbalances. That means I can work a lot deeper and in more layers then ever before. By walking through those layers with people, they gain enormous new insights about themselves and how this problem has started. It gives immediately relief and helps them to also heal family members or other parties involved. Most people need only 1 session.
In the old way, the energy boost would be around 2-3 weeks for most people.
In the new way, I've heard people still feeling it 6-8 weeks later, as well as reporting more blessings, harmony and joy in their lives.
With the new sessions people have told me that they have received important insights that feel rooted within them, felt energy shift in themselves and most importantly report a lot of miracles and shifts in the outside world as well. It's lovely to see how much positive change these sessions bring.
Will you never work in the old way anymore?
I will never say never, because I do not know what life will bring. I'm phasing out this part of my work now, hoping to finish up work with people at the end of 2019. If I feel called to work beyond that, I will do so and I'm called again in the future, I will find a way to start again.
Why is the new way more expensive?
Obviously a lot of people understand that if I work more powerfully and faster, I need to raise prices. If not, I would go broke very soon. For every new client that finds me, I have to advertise, promote, do intakes, answer e-mails etc. If I work 6 times faster for the same price, I'd have to find 6 times more clients without any extra resources. Frankly, that's not possible without me going into burnout, which would mean I can't help anybody.
I asked God what the new price would be and even though I had difficulty with it in the beginning, I trust that it's the right way. I feel I'm still asking less then the true value of these sessions and the very positive responses from clients seem to agree with me.
Will you have more changes?
Of course, because life is ever changing. I'm planning on doing more group work and moving forward with my books and other projects.
So, keep yourself up to date by following the blog or Facebook Fan Page or by receiving the news letter.
Dear people,
Often we find ourselves struggling with difficult patterns that we can also see repeated in our own family. We might even reinforce them by saying: "Oh, we are all "insert problematic behavior", which means that it becomes even harder to free ourselves. Family wounds can travel throughout generations, in changes of behavior, outlook, thought patterns and health issues. We can however, become trailblazers and free ourselves and our family. We can say: "It stops here" and not burden ourselves and younger generations with old pain, heartbreak or traps.
Remember that often, unhealthy family patterns have two unbalanced sides. So when there is a family pattern around sex, some family members have too much of it/history of assaults while others have too little. When there is an unhealthy pattern around money, some people are spending recklessly while others are super stingy. It's rare to see a balanced pattern, because we feel deep loyalty sometimes to continue the pattern.
Time to free your family and yourself with this excellent exercise.
Often we find ourselves struggling with difficult patterns that we can also see repeated in our own family. We might even reinforce them by saying: "Oh, we are all "insert problematic behavior", which means that it becomes even harder to free ourselves. Family wounds can travel throughout generations, in changes of behavior, outlook, thought patterns and health issues. We can however, become trailblazers and free ourselves and our family. We can say: "It stops here" and not burden ourselves and younger generations with old pain, heartbreak or traps.
Remember that often, unhealthy family patterns have two unbalanced sides. So when there is a family pattern around sex, some family members have too much of it/history of assaults while others have too little. When there is an unhealthy pattern around money, some people are spending recklessly while others are super stingy. It's rare to see a balanced pattern, because we feel deep loyalty sometimes to continue the pattern.
Time to free your family and yourself with this excellent exercise.
Family Freedom Exercise
Take around 30-45 minutes of uninterrupted time to do this exercise. All you need is pen and paper, but a set of cards with positive gifts can also help.
Question 1: Which family pattern do you see?
Could be anything that you want to work on, ranging from health issues, to issues around relationships, money, assertiveness etc.
Could be anything that you want to work on, ranging from health issues, to issues around relationships, money, assertiveness etc.
Question 2a: What is the first unbalanced side
What has made you believe that this is a problem, what type of hurt, wounds or pain do you see surrounding this pattern.
Question 2b: What is the second unbalanced side
Question 2b: What is the second unbalanced side
What is the second unbalanced side, that moves in the direct opposite of what is going on, but is still problematic.
Question 3a: Who in the living family has it/which side or both of it?
This helps you check how many generations are burdened by this and if it's your mothers side of the family, your fathers side of the family or both.
Question 3b: How many generations has this been going on?
You might know through stories of your grandparents or other family how long this pattern has been going on. If you don't know, you can ask intuitively. Don't be surprised if you reach high numbers like 5-6 generations back or even longer.
Question 3b: How many generations has this been going on?
You might know through stories of your grandparents or other family how long this pattern has been going on. If you don't know, you can ask intuitively. Don't be surprised if you reach high numbers like 5-6 generations back or even longer.
Question 4: What is the balanced pattern?
Since you know both sides of the extreme, it's important to recognize what the balanced healthy way would be. You might recognize it in others around you, who don't have this family pattern or you might ask intuitively what is the right and healthy way.
Question 5: What times/moments has this pattern harmed you, that you need to let go of
Since this pattern has been active in your life, you might remember several examples that you have felt the harm. I recommend you write down a short summary or create just the title for the moments that have been meaningful.
Healing the first break
Intuitively ask what happened at the first ancestor who has brought this pattern into being. Was it a man or a woman? What was going on there, what heart break or pain occurred that they moved into this unhealthy pattern? What was the actual lesson and what is the gift?
Embrace the gift and surround your ancestor with love. You can ask for help from your guides, heaven or other spiritual helpers to achieve this.
Healing the family
Instead of the wound, imagine the gift moving from your ancestor throughout your family, going down generations, but also sideways (so also uncles/aunts/cousins etc), receiving this blessing, until it reaches you. Have it passed down from your conception all the way through your current age and see how it heals the moments that you have described in question 5. Pass it on to next generations if those are existing.
Since this pattern has been active in your life, you might remember several examples that you have felt the harm. I recommend you write down a short summary or create just the title for the moments that have been meaningful.
Healing the first break
Intuitively ask what happened at the first ancestor who has brought this pattern into being. Was it a man or a woman? What was going on there, what heart break or pain occurred that they moved into this unhealthy pattern? What was the actual lesson and what is the gift?
Embrace the gift and surround your ancestor with love. You can ask for help from your guides, heaven or other spiritual helpers to achieve this.
Healing the family
Instead of the wound, imagine the gift moving from your ancestor throughout your family, going down generations, but also sideways (so also uncles/aunts/cousins etc), receiving this blessing, until it reaches you. Have it passed down from your conception all the way through your current age and see how it heals the moments that you have described in question 5. Pass it on to next generations if those are existing.
Creating the right narrative
Now that this pattern is healed, create a small story of 2-3 lines that affirms that you are now a family of "insert healthy behavior". You will be surprised to see that lives will start shifting around you, as well as your own.
Want to talk to me about family patterns or want a little help to heal your family? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your stories or questions in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online.
Now that this pattern is healed, create a small story of 2-3 lines that affirms that you are now a family of "insert healthy behavior". You will be surprised to see that lives will start shifting around you, as well as your own.
Want to talk to me about family patterns or want a little help to heal your family? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your stories or questions in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online.