In our society it's easier to focus on what people accomplish, so it's easier to be constantly busy chasing goals and accomplishments. When we fall into that trap, we can become very critical of ourselves and it's becomes harder and harder to appreciate who we are. We are human being, not human doings. So if you feel like you have trouble appreciating you, read on!
Appreciation list
A great idea on how to appreciate yourself more is to make a list of all the qualities that you encompass and that make you (and probably other people) very happy. Be careful not to add in things that you do, but instead add in things that you are.
So don't write down: "I give to x charity", but do write down: "I'm a giving person"
You'll be surprised how much things you can write down if you just take the time. If you have a harder time brainstorming, add in compliments you have received or look at role models you have and check which qualities you share.
Look at your list regularly to build appreciation for yourself and to check which qualities you want to grow. It takes the focus off deadlines and places it back where it belongs on growth and well-being.
Positive Self-Talk
It's so easy to slip into negative talk about what you don't like about yourself or what you think you should have done better. You might hear yourself talk negatively about your behavior, your body and your skills.
So, spend some time each day to talk positively about yourself. Give yourself a well meant compliment daily to create positive growth. Whenever you start hearing a negative put down, try to move it towards neutral or positive. Don't say: "I'm bad at X", but say "This time I didn't get the results I wanted" or "I'm learning how to do X and I will get better with time".
Gratitude
I'm sure many of you have done gratitude exercises already, but often we tend to be grateful for others or circumstances. Spend some time being grateful that you are you. Your unique talents are needed in this world.
Have something to add about appreciation or want to appreciate yourself more? Post a comment on the blog, Facebook Fan Page or talk to me in the practice.